Have you noticed that a parent, loved one, or friend is struggling to live their life independently? Perhaps you have come to realize that they need more support. You might be considering providing this support yourself. You could even be thinking about inviting them to live with you on a full-time basis. While this is admirable and may provide some positives, there are a few reasons why you should avoid becoming the primary person responsible for a senior’s care needs.
Their Needs Could Be More Complicated Than You Realize
First, it’s possible that the needs of your loved one are more complicated than they seem at first. For instance, they might be in an early stage of dementia. If that’s the case, then you could notice changes to their mood and behavior. They could also be a danger to themselves or your family when they become disorientated or even irritable.
It Will Put Pressure On You And Your Family
Regardless of your intentions, taking responsibility for a senior’s care needs will always put pressure on you as well as your family. You may find that there are things that you can no longer enjoy and you could begin to lose some of your own freedom as well. There are support options available including respite care but this may still not be enough and will only offer you a break every so often.
It Could Mean 24/7 Support
It’s quite common for an elderly individual or someone with a long term disability to need 24/7 support. You might think that it’s enough to move them into your home. But it won’t be if you are out for most of the day. If you are leaving them alone for a lot of the day to go to work or go on social errands, then this could also have a negative impact on their mental health. They could be more likely to develop the symptoms of cognitive decline.
Your Relationship Will Change
Finally, it’s important to understand that if you take responsibility for a senior’s care needs then your relationship with them will always be changed. Instead of viewing you as a friend or family member, they will see you as their carer. They may resent you for this and if they are angry or upset, then they could take it out on you. Particularly, if they feel as though they are losing their independence or the control that they once had over their own life.
We hope this helps you understand some of the key reasons why taking responsibility for a senior’s care needs or requirements might not be the best option. Instead, you should leave this in the hands of a professional. That way, you can make sure that your relationship with them as a son, daughter, or friend, remains firmly intact. If you are interested in learning about the care services we provide at Providence Home, please do not hesitate to reach out today.